中国人婚姻

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中国人的习惯和习俗。
作者：皮尔斯先生，赣粤省的首府，赣粤省。
婚姻。
在婚姻问题上，中国人有许多习俗与上帝的选民中存在的习俗非常相似。
其中第一个要注意的是
丈夫和妻子的
首先要注意的是未来的丈夫和妻子的拜堂。这通常是在真正的结婚仪式举行之前的一段时间内进行的
这通常是在实际结婚仪式举行之前的一段时间。因此
马太谈到我们主的母亲被 "许配给约瑟 "的时候。
"与约瑟订婚"。摩西在制定法规时也是如此
中国的百万人口。
摩西在制定那些 "出去打仗 "的人要遵守的规定时，也把 "订婚的人 "作为例外。
其中有一个例外，那就是 "已订婚而未娶妻 "的人。他被命令 "重新回到他的家里，以免他在战斗中死亡，而另一个人
带走她。" 订婚一般是
由双方父母安排
一般来说，订婚是由双方的父母安排的，并由一个 "go-beiweea "来执行。
他代表他们管理整个事件。最相关的各方与此事关系不大，因为在选择丈夫或妻子的问题上，父母对子女的权力是最重要的。与此对应的是
我们发现，亚伯拉罕派 "他家中管理一切的大仆人 "为以撒寻找妻子。亚伯拉罕在差遣他时对他说："你不可，"。
亚伯拉罕在派他去执行这个任务时对他说
你不可从我所住的迦南人的女儿中为我儿子娶妻。
你要到我的国家和我的亲属那里去，为我儿子以撒娶妻。" 随后，仆人去了亚伯拉罕的家乡。
随后，仆人去了亚伯拉罕的家乡，安排了整个事情，完全没有征求以撒的意见。这个
"新郎的朋友"
{可能是那个代表新郎处理此事的中间人。
新郎的朋友"{约翰福音第三章第2节}可能是代表新郎的家庭管理这件事的中间人。
他通常会采取
主动促成
他通常会主动促成这桩婚事。
他的喜悦在以下情况下得到了满足
新郎得到了
因为他的目标得到了，他的工作也
满意地完成。
施洗者约翰寻求
不是为自己寻求荣誉
而是为基督，并且
只要基督增加，他就满足于减少。
他的门徒告诉他，"所有的人都到他那里去 "时
(当他的门徒告诉他，"所有的人都到他那里去"（耶稣）时，他远没有
当门徒告诉他 "所有的人都到他那里去"（耶稣）时，他不但没有像他们似乎
当门徒告诉他 "所有的人都到他那里去"（耶稣）时，他不但没有像他们所期望的那样感到悲伤，反而非常高兴
因为他看到
因为他看到了这是他所有希望的实现和愿望的实现的预兆。在中国，以普通方式进行的恋爱并没有多少浪漫可言。很多时候，订婚者
在这种情况下，新郎和新娘都要在婚礼当天才会见面。
在这种情况下，新郎
在这种情况下，新郎不会看到他的新娘的脸。
在这种情况下，新郎不会看到新娘的脸，直到结婚仪式完成之后，因为新娘所戴的面纱
在这种情况下，新郎直到结婚仪式结束后才看到新娘的脸，因为新娘所戴的面纱有效地将她的特征从好奇者的视线中隐藏起来，除了新郎本人；所以人们很容易理解，他常常对成为他生命伴侣的女士感到非常失望。但是，唉！现在忏悔已经太晚了。
有一个有趣的故事，说的是失望的新郎在发现以下情况时的懊恼之情
新郎在揭开面纱时，发现了一个有趣的故事。
他终于看到了他所娶的妻子，"不管是好是坏"，她已经老了，丑了，或者畸形了。其中一个
其中一个是这样的。-一位绅士在为妻子进行谈判时
一位先生在谈婚论嫁时，为他家安排此事的 "朋友 "告诉他，这位女士在美貌和修养方面都是尽人皆知的。
他说，这位女士在美貌和修养方面都是众望所归。他说，只有一件事使他无法把她描述得绝对完美：她的头发是黑色的，她的牙齿白得像雪，她的嘴唇像红宝石；但是她有一个缺陷
这只眼睛（用手指着他自己的右眼）。
" 哦！"高兴的新郎展望着说，"如果这就是
如果只是这样，一只眼睛有一点缺陷也不是什么大事。" 在一个次要的场合，这位中间人说："我的眼睛有一点缺陷，这不是什么大事。
在一个次要的场合，中间人重复了这一信息，但他指的不是他的右边，而是指的是。
然而，他不是指他的右眼，而是指他的左眼。然而，他对那只公平的眼睛的描述中的这一差异并没有被注意到，直到为时已晚。
但他对这位女士的描述中的这一差异却没有被注意到，直到为时已晚。婚礼结束后，这个可怜的家伙发现了一个可怕的事实：他的妻子已经完全失明。一般来说，在中国，没有一个女人在到达结婚年龄后仍然不结婚。同样的情况也可能发生在
妻子必须是买来的。妻子必须被收买
妻子必须根据新郎的财力和地位，用较大或较小的金额来购买。毋庸置疑的是
类似的习俗在以色列人中盛行，因为当
因为当耶和华命令先知何西阿 "去爱她朋友所爱的女人 "时，他说："我用十五块银子把她买给我。
他说："我用十五块银子和一斗大麦，以及半斗大麦把她买给我"。同样，当哈摩尔的儿子示剑的灵魂 "与雅各的女儿底拿相爱 "的时候
他对她的父亲和弟兄们说："让我在你们眼中得到恩典，你们对我说什么，我就给什么。不要向我要这么多的嫁妆和礼物，我必照着你们所说的给你们；但要给我
妇人为妻。" 雅各也是如此，因为他没有钱
没有钱给拉班买他的女儿拉结，就同意服侍他。
七年，使她成为他的妻子。大卫也是如此，当
逼迫他娶扫罗的女儿时，也是如此（考虑到为王的女儿所需的金额
想到为王的女儿所需的钱
女儿），他回答说
"在你看来，做王的女婿是一件很轻的事
你看我是个贫穷的人。
你看我是个穷人，受人轻视。但当他被告知："瓦勒王不想要任何嫁妆 "时，"大卫很高兴，他说
大卫很高兴
但当他被告知国王不希望有任何嫁妆时，"大卫就很高兴，要他做国王的女婿"（撒母耳记上，第十八章，23，25，26）。
25, 26).
现在只剩下
我想说的是
新娘的程序。
这构成了仪式的一个重要部分。当新娘在婚礼当天早上按惯例洗澡（以西结书二十三章40节），并穿上新娘的衣服（通常是用丰富的刺绣为她购买的），再加上诸如珠宝、首饰等，"使自己准备好"。
并穿上她的新娘服装（通常是花了很多钱为她买的），再加上新郎家有能力为她购买的珠宝和装饰品。
见《诗篇》第十四篇，第十四章；《以赛亚书》第十一章。
13, 14; Isaiah Ixi. 10；以西结书第十六章10-13节），她 "准备好了，就像为新郎装饰的新娘一样。
她被 "准备好了，就像为丈夫装饰的新娘"，然后队伍开始前往另一方的住所，"带着高兴和欢喜"（诗篇）。
欢呼雀跃"（诗篇第十五篇）。" 在队伍的前面是.^.
. .人拿着点燃的火把，还有一个音乐乐队。
靠近新娘椅的是新娘的几个兄弟，或她家的朋友，以及新郎的几个朋友（'同伴'士师记十四章n节）或兄弟。后者，即'新房的孩子'（马太福音第九章第15节），是在清晨从新郎的房子里派来的。
清晨从新郎家出发，目的是为了迎接
新娘的队伍，并护送新娘到她家。* 与此几乎对应的是《马太福音》第二十五章中关于婚礼队伍的描述。
与此几乎对应的是《马太福音》第二十五章中关于婚礼队伍的描述，只是在这种情况下，新郎新娘才是队伍中的核心人物。在中国，宴会是婚礼程序的一个重要部分，但由于我在以前的文章中已经写过这个问题，所以在这里就不必写了。
我不需要在这里这么做。
* 杜利特尔的《社会生活》。



HABITS AND CIJSTOMS OP THE CHINESE.
Bv Mr. Pearse, of Gan-k'ing, the capital of the Gan-hwuy Province.
MARRIAGE.
N CONNECTION with the subject ot marriage, the Chinese have many customs which bear a very close resemblance to those existing amongst God's chosen
people ; and the first of these to be noticed is the
BETROTHAL
of the future husband and wife. This is usually ai ranged some
time before the actual marriage ceremony takes place. Thus
Matthew speaks of the time when the mother of our Lord was
"espoused to Joseph." Moses, too, in instituting regulations
CHINA'S MILLIONS.
for the observance of those who " go out to battle," makes
exception, amongst others, of the man " that hath betrothed a wife and hath not taken her." He is commanded to " re- turn to his house lest he die in the battle and another man
take her." The betrothal is generally
ARRANGED BY THE PARENTS
on both sides, and is eiafected by a " go-beiweea," who
manages the whole affair on their behalf. The parties most concerned have little to do with the matter, as the power of the parent over the children is paramount in the question of selecting a husband or a wife. Corresponding to
this, we find that Abraham sent " the eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had," to seek a wife for Isaac. " Thou shalt not," said Abraham to him, when sending
him forth on this mission, '
' take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites among whom I dwell, but thou
shalt go unto my country and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac." Subsequently the servant went to Abraham's
native place, and arranged the whole affair without consulting Isaac at all in the matter. The
"friend of the bridegroom"
{John iii. 2g) is probably the go-hetween who has managed the
affair on behalf of the bridegroom's family,and
who would usually take
the initiative in bringing
about the marriage.
His joy is fulfilled when
the bridegroom hath the
bride, for his object is gained, and his work
satisfactorily completed.
John the Baptist sought
not honour for himself
but for Christ, and
was contented to decrease so long as Christ increased ; and when
told by his disciples that " all men come to Him "
(Jesus), far from being
grieved, as they seemed
to expect, he rejoiced
greatly, because he saw
ill this the earnest of the consummation of all his hopes, and the fulfilment of his desires. There is not much romance connected with Chinese love- making in the ordinary way. Very frequently the betrothed
pair do not meet each other until the v/edding day ; in such
cases the bridegroom
DOES NOT SEE HIS BRIDE's FACE
until after the marriage ceremony is completed, as the veil which
is worn by the bride, effectually hides her features from the gaze of the curious, Bot excepting the bridegroom himself ; so one can easily understand that he is often grievously disappointed with the lady who has become the partner of his life. But, alas ! it is now too late to repent.
Amusing stories are told of the chagrin of disappointed
bridegrooms on discovering, v/hen the veil is removed, and
at last he gets a sight of the wife whom he has taken "for better, for worse," that she is old, ugly, or deformed. One
of them is as follows : —A gentleman, when negotiating for a
wife, was informed by the "friend" who was arranging the matter for his family, that the lady was everything that could be
desired, both as regards beauty and accomplishment. There was but one thing, he said, which prevented his being able to describe her as absolutely perfect : her hair was black, her teeth white as driven snow, her lips like rubies ; but she has a defect
in this eye (pointing with his finger to his own right eye).
" Oh ! " said the delighted bridegroom in prospect, " if that is
all, a slight defect in one eye is no great matter." On a subseBRIDAL SEDAN.
quent occasion the go-between repeated the information, pointing,
however, not to his right but to his left eye. This difference in his description of the fair one was not, however, noticed until
it was too late. IV/ien Ihe tuedding was all over, the poor fellow made the terrible discovery that his wife was totally blind. As a general rule, no woman in China remains unmarried after arrival at the marriageable age. The same might probably be
the case also with the men, but for the fact that marriage with them is an expensive business. THE WIFE HAS TO BE BOUGHT
with a larger or smaller sum, according to the means and posi- tion of the intended bridegroom. There can be no doubt but
that a similar custom prevailed amongst the Israelites, for when
the Lord commanded the prophet Hosea to " go, yet love a woman beloved of her friend," he says, "/ bought her to me for
fifteen pieces of silver, and for an homer of barley, and an half- homer of barley." And again, when the soul of Shechem, the son of Hamor, " clave unto Dinah, the daughter of Jacob, and
he loved the damsel," he said unto her father and her brethren, " Let me find grace in your eyes, and what ye shall say unto me I will give. Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me ; but give me
the damsel to wife." And Jacob also, as he had no money
to give Laban for his daughter Rachel, agreed to serve him
:- seven years, that she might become his wife. David, too, when
pressed to marry Saul's daughter (thinking of the amount of the money that would be
required for the king's
daughter), answered,
"Seemcthit to you to be a light thing to be a
king's son-in-law, seeing that I am a poor man,
and lightly esteemed ? " But when he was told that ^' tile king desireth not any dowry," "it
pleased David well to
iDe the king's son-in- law " (l Sam. xviii. 23,
25, 26).
It only remains now
for me to say something
of the BRIDAL PROCESSION,
which forms such an important part of the ceremony. When the bride has "made herself ready " by taking the customary bath on the morning of the wedding day ( Ezek. xxiii. 40) and array- ing herself in her bridal garments (often richly embroidered
and purchased for her at considerable cost), with the addition of such jewels and ornaments as the means of the bridegroom's
family enable them to procure for the occasion (see Psalm xlv.
13, 14; Isaiah Ixi. 10; Ezek. xvi. 10-13), she is "prepared
as a bride adorned for hier husband," and the procession starts en route for the residence of the other party "with gladness and
rejoicing" (Psalm xlv. 15). " In front of the procession are .^ .
. . men carrying lighted torches, and a band of music;
near the bridal chair are several brothers of the bride, or friends of her family, and several friends ('companions' Judges xiv. n) or brothers of the groom. These latter, 'the children of the bride-chamber' (Matt. ix. 15), are despatched from the house
of the groom early in the morning, for the purpose of meeting
the bridal procession and escorting the bride to her home." * Very nearly corresponding to this is the account of the wedding
procession in Matt, xxv., except that in that case it is the bride- groom who forms the central figure in the procession. In China the feast is an important part of the proceedings, but as I have already written upon that subject in a former paper,
I need not do so here.
* Doolittle's " Social Lif